April 15, 2009
Today Let's Focus On Something Rather Than Food
Sometimes the Universe just doesn't make sense to me. On the one hand you have amazing, fantastical things that happen that boggle the mind and warm the heart, on the other you have terrible, heartbreaking, incomprehensible occurrences that fail to make sense no matter how long you think about them and in most cases you don't want to think about them at all.
Over the past few years I've made an acquaintance with Shana, the authoress of Gorillabuns. We exchange e-mails occasionally and though we have never met, she totally strikes me as someone I could sit down and have dinner, share a drink, have fun and laugh the night away with. She's witty, snarky, comes off as a fiercely loyal friend, not to mention an enormously loving mother.
I have to admit I got behind on my blog reading this past weekend, as I often do these days, and I hadn't been by to her blog since late last week. I actually sent her an e-mail mid week last week and then got busy with Jamison's parents being here and Easter and I wasn't on the computer much over the weekend. There just never seem to be enough hours in the day, as you well know in your own lives.
I missed her post asking for prayers for her son Thalon. When I finally got around to catching up yesterday I had planned to answer the e-mail she sent back to me on Thursday, but I decided to go through my RSS feed first, and that's when I found not only the post that I linked to before, but the one following it two days later that said that almost four month old Thalon had passed away. At that moment my heart shattered for Shana and I haven't stopped thinking about her and her family since then.
When things like this happen it just doesn't make sense. As a parent we hope to never have to experience that pain, but when someone does, whether we have met them or not, we automatically feel devastated for the person who is going down the path that none of us want to go down. In fact it's a road we wish that no one had to travel!
I know I have, and many of you probably have too, woken up in the middle of the night with the burning desire to go check on your child(ren). We sneak quietly into their rooms and merely watch them sleep to reassure ourselves that they are indeed ok. Were they not, well our minds just can't wrap around that possibility, and it's a nightmare that many of us have. The reality that any of us, children included, can go tomorrow, in a few hours, or even in the next second, is easy to forget, but it doesn't make it any less real, nor does it make is any less heartbreaking when it actually occurs.
So no matter what you believe send Shana and her family some good thoughts and/or prayers. Shana and her husband Rich have lost a son...Celia and Moira have lost a little brother. Their family has collectively had their life turned upside down and their hearts crushed in a way that none of them could have imagined. A little positive energy their way can go a long way, though it will never erase what has happened totally.
Another way to help out, if you're so inclined, is to contribute to the fund that Shana's friend has set up to help out the family. Think about making a contribution if you can. Even a dollar or two will help the family pay for unexpected expenses that are sure to pop up, and in this economy we all know how tight things can be. If you want to contribute push the button below.
So as I said before. No food today. I simply wanted to show my meager support for the Gorillabuns family. My heart goes out to Shana, Rich, Moira and Celia. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by Dianne at April 15, 2009 12:39 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear of their loss. What's going on? Is this is the third loss of a sweet baby in the past two months and the 2nd in a week.
Thalon's family will be in my prayers.
Posted by: ingrid at April 15, 2009 4:12 PM
Thank you for writing about your friend and her family. My own heart was feeling the compassion with which you wrote. N
Posted by: Nella at April 15, 2009 5:52 PM
I just found out about this today when I saw her blog post. So heartbreaking. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family.
Posted by: Moni at April 15, 2009 7:27 PM
Ingrid, it seems to be happening more frequently as of late. It just breaks my heart.
Nella, thanks. I don't know Shana well, but I wanted to do something, as small as it might be.
Moni, it is heartbreaking on so many levels.
Posted by: Dianne at April 16, 2009 9:36 AM